If it were for me, I would up the hops. The old lady isn't a huge fan of hops... Hence the reason why I'm not brewing her an IPA lol. I did have the Mt Hood and Willamette additions at .75 oz, but I kicked them down because I have a handful of each of those growing on the vine that I plan on throwing in. I will be rebrewing an imperial hoppy red for myself he soon for the fall. I made one late winter that was finished Simcoe and Amarillo... I didn't like the Amarillo... My go with Cents instead
Does she not like the bitterness of hops, the aroma or both? My wife also has expressed some "concern" about my unhealthy love of cones, but I've found she finds the bitterness most objectionable. I recently brewed an IPA and moved most of the hops to flameout and dry hopping. She claimed it was a big improvement. Perhaps this is an option for you as well.
"I don't know how you drink that! It tastes like dish soap!"
Ah, I see. That may be a bit more problematic.