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Title: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: boulderbrewer on October 31, 2010, 03:44:39 AM
My wife doesn't get it. I guess it is time for a change.

What have you done to make it some what easy?
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on October 31, 2010, 04:52:45 AM
I met my wife at the '96 NHC in NOLA.  She totally gets it.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: corkybstewart on October 31, 2010, 05:08:53 AM
My wife bought me my first kit back in 1992 and has been very supportive ever since.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on October 31, 2010, 05:08:59 AM
Meeting with the lawyer next week.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: 1vertical on October 31, 2010, 05:44:20 AM
I guess it is time for a change.

I been thinking the same thing....I'm damn old to be back in the market
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on October 31, 2010, 06:02:56 AM
I was a homebrewer long before I met my wife,  If she wasn't supportive, I wouldn't have married her.

Then again, her go-to beer when she turned 21 was Black Butte Porter . . .

I think the main thing to do is make something that she likes, whether that's beer, wine, cider, or sake.  And stroke her ego by naming it after her.  And no, I don't mean "Raving B!tch IPA" or "Psycho Wife Barelywine - I'll keep this beer longer than I'll keep her".  "Bachelor Bitter" is taken, and is not advisable anyway :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on October 31, 2010, 06:41:44 AM
I think the main thing to do is make something that she likes, whether that's beer, wine, cider, or sake.

Mead, Tom... Mead is the answer!

When I started brewing I was overwhelmed with the possibilities...  One of my primary goals was to make a beverage that women love, and when they drink it they fall over backwards and ...

It worked 14+ years ago.  It still works today... Mead!

(says the beekeeper)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on October 31, 2010, 06:46:30 AM
Whoops, I should have looked at my list more closely!  Yes of course, mead too.  Whatever it takes. :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: nicneufeld on October 31, 2010, 12:32:43 PM
My wife, while very supportive, isn't a fan of most brews.  She can tolerate meads, but she doesn't LOVE them.  However...a simple cider....just juice and yeast...aged a couple months and then force carbonated, she drank that cornelius keg dry!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Pawtucket Patriot on October 31, 2010, 12:49:45 PM
My wife was a beer drinker when we first met.  She wasn't as into craft brew as she is today, but she always liked beer.  She was at least somewhat geeked up about my initial interest in brewing, and now looks forward to brew day almost as much as me.  The only downer for her right now is that she's pregnant with our second, so no beer for awhile. :(  Oh well, I guess I was always willing and able to drink for two. ;) ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: weazletoe on October 31, 2010, 12:50:12 PM
My wife, though not a fan of beer, is very supportive of me brewing. I'm not sure why our wives would have to understand why we do it, to support us. Seems to me, if they don't get the whole idea of us enjoying it, and it being our hobby,well.......I dunno. Hollly crochets baby booties by the dozens. We have no children, and want no children. Do I get it? No. But hey, she likes it, and enjoys doing it, so more power to her.
   Maybe buy a boat next summer. Aftershe see what goes into that, she'll be begging you to brew!  ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: weazletoe on October 31, 2010, 01:05:49 PM
I was giving this some thought this morning, and he's what I came up with.  I mean no disrespect, you know I think of you likea big brother. I know you're WAY nito your beer and brewing. Your homebrew club, going to GABF, and events, not to mention brewing like a madman every weekend. Well, it occured to me, maybe if you eaae up on the throttle a little bit, for just a time, she'll feel a little better about it. Maybe she feels that your beer is getting some attention she deserves and wants? I know Holly starts getting a little snippy with me if I start pulling off double brews to many weekends in a row. That being the last thing I've done for a long time, and actually not haven gotten to brew since last February, she actaully keeps asking me when I going to, and how long till I have a brewery set up in Idaho.
   Maybe I'm wrong in your case, but just a thought.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: capozzoli on October 31, 2010, 02:11:00 PM
Meeting with the lawyer next week.

I can offer some advice in this area.

1. Dont do it.

2. If you have to, make sure you have expended all other routes. (take some time and step back).

3. Think of the kids.

4. In thsee days you have no use for anger, get rid of it.

5. And most important, for god sakes eat a peach.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: 1vertical on October 31, 2010, 02:39:12 PM

I can offer some advice in this area.
5. And most important, for god sakes eat a peach.

 :o

You really are good at expanding my culinary horizons  ;)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tygo on October 31, 2010, 02:46:54 PM
My wife isn't crazy about my homebrewing but she recognizes that it's my hobby and I enjoy it.  It's her fault anyway since she bought me the Mr. Beer kit.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: majorvices on October 31, 2010, 02:55:39 PM
My wife let me rob our savings account and open a brewery. And she was the one who encouraged me to do it - it was her suggestion, I had never even contemplated it. And she works full time and brings home the paycheck now while I work at the brewery and make $0. And she doesn't regret it at all and is almost as excited as me. I couldn't have found a better woman.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: corkybstewart on October 31, 2010, 03:20:12 PM
My wife let me rob our savings account and open a brewery. And she was the one who encouraged me to do it - it was her suggestion, I had never even contemplated it. And she works full time and brings home the paycheck now while I work at the brewery and make $0. And she doesn't regret it at all and is almost as excited as me. I couldn't have found a better woman.
My wife has also encouraged me to quit my real job and open a brewpub, alas there isn't enough in the savings account to rob.  She's also encouraged me to plant a barley crop in our old horse pen so I'm not sure how well she thinks these things out.
But on an every day homebrewing note my wife is happy that because I keep so much beer on hand I haven't been to a bar in years and she doesn't have to worry about me driving drunk or chasing wild women.   I may be spending a lot of time and energy in my garage brewery, but I'm at home, not off wasting money or doing something stupid(like her old hobby flying).
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: hopfenundmalz on October 31, 2010, 03:27:52 PM
My wife has become my brewing partner.  She enjoys beer travel as much as I do (maybe more).  She is also active in out club, and is a member of the AHA.  The NHC has become a high point of the year for us.  Should I say that we are both looking forward to San Diego in 2011?

I am a lucky guy.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on October 31, 2010, 03:41:43 PM
My wife has supported my homebrewing hobby from the very beginning.  She enjoys most of the beer I brew.
In fact she has helped promote my 2010 NHC Silver medal win by contacting our local media sources.
She also likes wine so I make wine as well eventhough I'm not a big wine drinker.
When she makes plans, I try to schedule my homebrewing around her plans to keep her happy to.

I think there has to be at minimum an acceptance of our craft by the significant other.
Otherwise there will only be resistance.
While we're off homebrewing, I think it's the perfect opportunity for the wife to have some time
for her own interests as Weaz had mentioned.  
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on October 31, 2010, 03:42:22 PM
My wife let me rob our savings account and open a brewery. And she was the one who encouraged me to do it - it was her suggestion, I had never even contemplated it. And she works full time and brings home the paycheck now while I work at the brewery and make $0. And she doesn't regret it at all and is almost as excited as me. I couldn't have found a better woman.

Amen to that!  ;)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Hokerer on October 31, 2010, 03:50:08 PM
Mine has the perfect pedigree...  Father-in-law's life motto is "beer goes with everything"  ...and she's a chip off the old block.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: jeffy on October 31, 2010, 04:13:28 PM
I met my wife at the '96 NHC in NOLA.  She totally gets it.
I only remember one girl being at that conference. ;) Maybe that's why you met her.

The '96 NHC was also our 20th wedding anniversary and my first conference.  My lovely wife was totally disappointed that I actually wanted to go to the seminars and not be with her.  "Nobody goes to the seminars!"  We almost didn't make it to our next anniversary.

She does not drink beer except for the samples I shove at her to get her sensory analysis.
btw one of her pet peeves is that whenever anyone wants to give a female non-beer-drinker a beer that she will love, they hand her a fruit beer or something overly sweet.  Why is that?  My wife drinks single malt, gin and tonics, vodka and bubbly water, and chardonnay.  No real reason for her to like beer.  Besides all the more for me!

 
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on October 31, 2010, 06:07:39 PM
I can offer some advice in this area.

1. Dont do it.
Yeah. Yeah, I know.
2. If you have to, make sure you have expended all other routes. (take some time and step back).
Spent the past year doing just that.
3. Think of the kids.
There's a motivation here related to just that. Not much more I can say on the matter publicly.
4. In thsee days you have no use for anger, get rid of it.
Gone.
5. And most important, for god sakes eat a peach.
Once the ring comes off, I just might.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: capozzoli on October 31, 2010, 06:14:35 PM
So then ya gonna move back to PA? Maybe Jim Thorpe? Its nice and it is cheap.

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on October 31, 2010, 06:23:30 PM
Not for another 15 years or so. Have to stay close to the girls, otherwise I'd probably head to south central PA.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: akr71 on October 31, 2010, 08:26:16 PM
Every 3 or 4 batches I ask what she would like me to brew and brew that and try to work her into the name (in a flattering way) whenever possible.

We bought our first kit together just after we got married, so she's on board.  She just doesn't like when every conversation revolves around beer.  ::)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 01, 2010, 01:53:47 AM
Not for another 15 years or so. Have to stay close to the girls, otherwise I'd probably head to south central PA.

Been there...done that...it sucks.

Hang in there.  There is light at the end of the tunnel.  :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: beersk on November 01, 2010, 07:28:34 PM
I have no one... :'(
Gets lonely and I'm having a difficult time meeting women.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: gordonstrong on November 01, 2010, 07:55:32 PM
I'm not a psychologist, but it seems like some women get married with the idea that they're going to change their husband in some major way.  Later on, they either figure out that idea was wrong and deal with it, or they leave.  One of my friends who got divorced said women get married hoping to change a man and men get married hoping a woman never changes.

I hate to generalize, but in people I know that have problems, this too often seems true.  I guess I'm lucky that my wife has dealt with it.  I wish she was a beer geek too, but I don't want to change her any more than I want to be changed.  At least she likes and drinks good craft beer.

Jeff Rankert is indeed a lucky guy; I can vouch for that first hand.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Slowbrew on November 01, 2010, 07:57:34 PM
Not to analyze this too much, but if a relationship is breaking up over a hobby, it's not breaking up over a hobby it's finding an excuse.

My wife wasn't sure about the whole brewing thing but she supported me starting the hobby.  She was ready to kick me in the tush while I was it the "there's nothing more interesting than beer" phase.  I told it would pass and it did.  Now she has told I never get to quit brewing because I've made a beer snob.  

I've also cut way back on the amount of time I spend brewing and try not to talk it about it too much.  We have 4 kids that keep us running constantly (never thought I'd be so happy to have a 16 year old driver in the house).  The times that we have the most trouble as a couple are when we don't get any time to be a couple.  If haven't, make room in your schedule for her and find other topics that interest you both.  Beer is great but every house needs more than one topic to talk about.  It doesn't matter if it's golf or critter killing, almost nobody else cares about it.  8^)

Paul
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: glitterbug on November 01, 2010, 08:18:11 PM
Not to analyze this too much, but if a relationship is breaking up over a hobby, it's not breaking up over a hobby

+1

Replace "brewing" with "fishing" and head over to a fishing forum. You will see the same stuff "she says i fish too much". This is about more than brewing. Maybe you two should see a counselor. 

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: capozzoli on November 01, 2010, 09:02:52 PM
I dont think the problem is that he brews. I think the problem is that she does not like his brew.  

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Mikey on November 01, 2010, 09:13:52 PM
I think the main problem is coming here to ask for advice about a marriage. :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: hopfenundmalz on November 01, 2010, 09:54:11 PM
Jeff Rankert is indeed a lucky guy; I can vouch for that first hand.

Thanks for that, Gordon. 

She has learned to deal with me in the best possible way!

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: EHall on November 01, 2010, 10:14:07 PM
I think the main problem is coming here to ask for advice about a marriage. :)

None of them asked for advice, everyone offered it up unsolicited... knowing their just trying to help/be supportive. I agree this is not the place to bring up marital/dating issues...
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: gordonstrong on November 01, 2010, 10:22:06 PM
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I agree this is not the place to bring up marital/dating issues...

Better stop calling it 'The Pub' then...
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: majorvices on November 01, 2010, 11:14:10 PM
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I agree this is not the place to bring up marital/dating issues...

Better stop calling it 'The Pub' then...

This is incredibly ironic even if most of you probably don't get why. I'm literally busting at the seams. LMAO!!  ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: weazletoe on November 01, 2010, 11:46:10 PM
 THat maked two of us, Major. Buthey, this is "the Pub". And what do guys do at the pub, but drink, and complain about life. We're guys. It's what we do. A lot of us on here have been around each other for a while, and though never having met, there is some type of bond. So, while I myself would not ask for advice, I would sure as heck head to the pub, get a beer, and let some stuff off my chest.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: nicneufeld on November 02, 2010, 12:17:44 AM
I'm literally busting at the seams.

I love how "literally" has come to mean "very much so" instead of "literally".  Like when people say "I'm literally freezing to death"!  Really?  You're actually, literally, non-metaphorically enduring the final phases of death by freezing?

Not to jump to conclusions...if you are literally busting at the seams, you should probably get yourself to a medical facility!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Mikey on November 02, 2010, 12:22:48 AM
This is FAR from any pub I go to.

LMAO. Is it really possible to laugh that hard? :D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: majorvices on November 02, 2010, 12:38:44 AM
I'm literally busting at the seams.

I love how "literally" has come to mean "very much so" instead of "literally".  Like when people say "I'm literally freezing to death"!  Really?  You're actually, literally, non-metaphorically enduring the final phases of death by freezing?

Not to jump to conclusions...if you are literally busting at the seams, you should probably get yourself to a medical facility!

Busting at the seams being a metaphor for laughing very hard - and in the literary sense I was. So there. :P
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: Mikey on November 02, 2010, 01:01:31 AM
The problem with busting at the seams is that you lose so much good homebrew.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on November 02, 2010, 01:32:04 AM
Not to jump to conclusions...if you are literally busting at the seams, you should probably get yourself to a medical facility!

Me?  I just wrap a few turns of duct tape around my head and I'm good.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 02, 2010, 01:36:22 AM
THat maked two of us, Major. Buthey, this is "the Pub". And what do guys do at the pub, but drink, and complain about life. We're guys. It's what we do. A lot of us on here have been around each other for a while, and though never having met, there is some type of bond. So, while I myself would not ask for advice, I would sure as heck head to the pub, get a beer, and let some stuff off my chest.

Hey Weaz...let me buy you a beer.  8)

Well said my freind.  ;)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: weazletoe on November 02, 2010, 03:05:14 AM
I'de take you up on that beer, but I just drank can of that "Four Loco"........Nasty stuff, but I can't feel my feet. I think I better cut myself off tonight.  ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: corkybstewart on November 02, 2010, 05:03:41 AM
This is as close to a "old style" pub as I ever get anymore.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on November 02, 2010, 05:13:19 AM
Here in Hawaii we are in time zone UTC -10.  That means the World Series started at 2PM here.  So lucky me I set the DVR, get home from a good day at work, pop a homebrew and turn on the big game.  Life is good!

Bottom of the third inning I hear the wife's car pull in, pause the game and go out to say hello...

"Welcome home honey!  How was your day?
"Good! How was yours?"
"Good too."  
"What are you doing?"
"Watching the World Series on TV."
"Hey that's great the Giants won ay?"

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 02, 2010, 06:52:36 AM
 ;D

You need to train her better.  When I tell my wife I'm watching the game she always asks how much I've watched and if I know the result.  I rarely get to watch games live, so it's old hat for her.  :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 02, 2010, 10:50:58 AM
Gotta love JG.  :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbCv6b96OK0
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: majorvices on November 02, 2010, 11:51:00 AM
Here in Hawaii we are in time zone UTC -10.  That means the World Series started at 2PM here.  So lucky me I set the DVR, get home from a good day at work, pop a homebrew and turn on the big game.  Life is good!

Bottom of the third inning I hear the wife's car pull in, pause the game and go out to say hello...

"Welcome home honey!  How was your day?
"Good! How was yours?"
"Good too."  
"What are you doing?"
"Watching the World Series on TV."
"Hey that's great the Giants won ay?"

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...

Living in Hawaii isn't going to get you many sympathy points from me.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: phillamb168 on November 03, 2010, 01:08:55 PM
I'm actually kinda glad this topic came up - I've run into some of the same things you guys are talking about, like being told that I talk too much about beer. For a while it was the only thing I talked about, but then we had A Talk and we've broadened our conversation.

My wife loves beer, and since we've been brewing more often has taken to reminding me that our HOUSE has a better beer selection than most bars in Paris. She also tells our friends this, so I think it's safe to say she likes what I'm doing with the hobby.

One thing, though. I really want to get her more involved. It's fun to sit in the basement by myself listening to Phish and soldering pipe or crushing grain, but my commute means I don't get a huge amount of time to spend with her, and so the weekends are an important time to be together. I still want to make beer, so the best thing I can think of is to get her down there with me.

Trouble is, I can be a bit of a perfectionist, and so the last few times she's tried to help I think I sounded a bit like an arrogant asshole. I know, I know, RDWHAHB, but I know I'll blame myself if the beer comes out bad and who wants bad beer? But that's kind of an aside I guess, something I need to fix on my own.

So, what would you recommend for getting her to come down and brew with me? We've got the baby too, and I'd love for him to brew with me once he gets older, so this would be good for everybody, really. One thing I had thought about doing was getting a couple Erlenmeyer flasks and some cheap grain bags so she could do small-batch experimentation. Any recipes you could recommend that are Erlenmeyer-friendly, or should I just scale down my existing recipes?
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: hopfenundmalz on November 03, 2010, 02:00:13 PM
My wife loves beer, and since we've been brewing more often has taken to reminding me that our HOUSE has a better beer selection than most bars in Paris. She also tells our friends this, so I think it's safe to say she likes what I'm doing with the hobby.

One thing, though. I really want to get her more involved.

She likes the beer you make.  If she has favorite recipe or a style that she wants you to brew, ask her to help make "her" beer.  Relax, and make it an enjoyable experience.  You can use it to talk about beer - errr the brewing process, endlessly.  :)

     
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: akr71 on November 03, 2010, 02:01:54 PM
I'm actually kinda glad this topic came up ...
Trouble is, I can be a bit of a perfectionist, and so the last few times she's tried to help I think I sounded a bit like an arrogant asshole. I know, I know, RDWHAHB, but I know I'll blame myself if the beer comes out bad and who wants bad beer? But that's kind of an aside I guess, something I need to fix on my own.

So, what would you recommend for getting her to come down and brew with me? ...

I think you've mostly answered your own question.  Even as a perfectionist you can still relax a bit when the wife is helping brew.  You can still make good or even great beer when you slack off a little, it just may not be your best beer ever.

Let her choose the style and brew that with her.  Or come up with an experimental recipe together.  If it is horrible, you can laugh about it together - if it is brilliant, congradulate each other and give her the lion's share of the credit for adding that secret ingredient.

You'll learn to relax somewhat as the baby gets older and helps int he brewhouse.  I was starting a batch of wine for the mother-in-law the other day.  Before I knew it, my 2 year old son had his hand in it, trying to help stir - I've seen where else those hands have been  :o  I'm glad I don't drink wine.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: phillamb168 on November 03, 2010, 02:16:47 PM
I was starting a batch of wine for the mother-in-law the other day.  Before I knew it, my 2 year old son had his hand in it, trying to help stir - I've seen where else those hands have been  :o  I'm glad I don't drink wine.

Heheheheh. Hope the MIL enjoys the wine ;-)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on November 03, 2010, 02:47:42 PM
I was starting a batch of wine for the mother-in-law the other day.  Before I knew it, my 2 year old son had his hand in it, trying to help stir - I've seen where else those hands have been  :o  I'm glad I don't drink wine.

Heheheheh. Hope the MIL enjoys the wine ;-)

Wine was invented long before toilet paper. Just something to think about.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: akr71 on November 03, 2010, 03:32:10 PM
Wine was invented long before toilet paper. Just something to think about.

Yeah, I'm not overly concerned.  In some areas, they still crush the grapes by foot and let the naturally occuring yeast ferment it.  A few boogers should eventually drop to the bottom of the fermenter.  ;D

But back to Phil's question... A craft brewer near me sponsors a competition every spring.  This past spring my wife said she wanted to be more involved in my entry, or at least attend the judging with me.  I suggested we brew 2 and enter them both jointly.  Her face lit up.  My point being that if she's engaged in the recipe and process from the start, there is a better chance she'll understand (or at least put up with) the perfectionist tendencies.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: halleyscomet on November 03, 2010, 03:38:08 PM
My wife has explicitly reminded me that I don't need to make sure she's likely to like everything I brew. That said, she has asked me to make cranberry wine and never complains about there being more hard cider in the house. I might even convince her that a fruit press is in our future.

We've talked about the prospect of starting a brewery or brewpub and have agreed that before I take any concrete steps in that direction I need to enter my brews in a few competitions first to get feedback on my beers.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: boulderbrewer on November 06, 2010, 02:50:48 AM
Well dealing with life gives you such little time for the forum.

Weaz we are still brothers.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: weazletoe on November 06, 2010, 03:48:55 AM
Weaz we are still brothers.

Woohoo! Hey, need you to shoot me a text. Had to reset my phone, and lost all my numbers.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: beveragebob on November 06, 2010, 09:02:59 PM
Things were a little easier for me with the wife. We met at my beer company kickoff party at the bar where we got our first kegs on draft. She was coming to visit her son who was bar tending at the time. We started talking and were dating a week later. She's not a hop head like me but, being I brew most beer styles, she discovered she loved stouts, porters, wits, saisons etc. The past year if she has a beer with me it HAS to be my pumpkin ale. This past week I brewed 10 gallons of Pumpkin and 5 gallons of saison. She's a cook and a chocolatier so, she handles the food side and I handle the beverages and it is pretty harmonious.  It's fun when we entertain and collaborate on food and beer pairings. We've had a good thing going for a long time and were in business together that didn't work out and went through some rough times but, our attitude was that it is us against the world.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: theoman on November 07, 2010, 10:15:37 AM
My wife and I started brewing together. She's not as into it anymore, but she's totally supportive of me (I suppose she likes that it distracts me from my other hobby - motorcycles - which she really doesn't get). We're in the planning stages of building a house and it was her idea to make sure I have a brewing space.

Reading through the thread makes me wonder... where are the female brewers?
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: uthristy on November 07, 2010, 12:05:50 PM
My wife and I started brewing together. She's not as into it anymore, but she's totally supportive of me (I suppose she likes that it distracts me from my other hobby - motorcycles - which she really doesn't get). We're in the planning stages of building a house and it was her idea to make sure I have a brewing space.

Reading through the thread makes me wonder... where are the female brewers?

Ha, I taught my wife to be my standby mechanic back when I was racing motorcycles. She was good enough to tear the engine down to the cases in under 1 hr :D
DaytonaEBC (http://i821.photobucket.com/albums/zz138/UknowWho2u/My%20brew%20pics/bottle%20beer/picture%20of%20my%20pint/brewstuff/randomstuff/EBC1.jpg)

As for the female brewers, well you met my wife, she was the reason we brew.She came home one day with all the buckets,grains,extract and brewed our very first batch.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on November 07, 2010, 03:28:54 PM
...I suppose she likes that it distracts me from my other hobby - motorcycles - which she really doesn't get...

Wow...  what's not to get about motorcycles?
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 07, 2010, 09:27:45 PM
...I suppose she likes that it distracts me from my other hobby - motorcycles - which she really doesn't get...

Wow...  what's not to get about motorcycles?
I don't know - I'm not into cars or motorcycles, to me they're just modes of transportation.  I can see why some people really like them and that's cool, they just hold no real interest to me.  Bouef.

<edit> added bouef.  Bouef.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: euge on November 08, 2010, 07:23:26 AM
And I was thinking on starting a thread about motorcycles (http://www.homebrewersassociation.org/forum/index.php?topic=4488.0). Boeuf...

Seriously. :D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: phillamb168 on November 08, 2010, 09:49:42 AM
Seems like I got a trend going. Bouef.

Also: Yamaha V-Star 1200 Silverado. I don't have one, but I wants it!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: phillamb168 on November 08, 2010, 09:51:50 AM
Back on topic, ordered some Apricot extract for my wife to make a batch of Magic Hat #9 clone, hopefully it'll get here in time for Thanksgiving. I think once she experiences how much fun it is having everybody praise the beer you made she'll be hooked on the hobby for sure. Plus it'll be fun!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: theoman on November 08, 2010, 09:54:24 AM
Ha, I taught my wife to be my standby mechanic back when I was racing motorcycles. She was good enough to tear the engine down to the cases in under 1 hr :D
DaytonaEBC (http://i821.photobucket.com/albums/zz138/UknowWho2u/My%20brew%20pics/bottle%20beer/picture%20of%20my%20pint/brewstuff/randomstuff/EBC1.jpg)

As for the female brewers, well you met my wife, she was the reason we brew.She came home one day with all the buckets,grains,extract and brewed our very first batch.

That's awesome! And one helluva wive you got there.

2003 Triumph Bonneville T100 (Rode to Prague last summer - motorcycles AND beer tourism!)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on November 08, 2010, 05:04:13 PM
Ok, can someone explain "Bouef" to me? I get the feeling this is a BFI thing I missed.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 08, 2010, 05:28:18 PM
Ok, can someone explain "Bouef" to me? I get the feeling this is a BFI thing I missed.
Nah, you're only a day behind.   ;D

http://www.homebrewersassociation.org/forum/index.php?topic=4483.msg51509#msg51509
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: nicneufeld on November 08, 2010, 05:41:59 PM
Bouefcake!  BOUEFCAKE!

(http://scienceblogs.com/purepedantry/carbcake.gif)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 08, 2010, 05:42:58 PM
Ok, can someone explain "Bouef" to me? I get the feeling this is a BFI thing I missed.
Nah, you're only a day behind.   ;D

http://www.homebrewersassociation.org/forum/index.php?topic=4483.msg51509#msg51509

Here's a more detailed example of this expression.  ;)

http://abcnews.go.com/Travel/International/story?id=2774218&page=1
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: euge on November 08, 2010, 05:53:12 PM
Interesting. And remember- Jerry Lewis and his expressions. But I understand his appeal to the French just a bit more now.

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on November 08, 2010, 06:07:41 PM
Ok, can someone explain "Bouef" to me? I get the feeling this is a BFI thing I missed.
Nah, you're only a day behind.   ;D

http://www.homebrewersassociation.org/forum/index.php?topic=4483.msg51509#msg51509

Guess I'm just a backward, provencial American after all. Bouef.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on November 08, 2010, 07:32:18 PM
Interesting. And remember- Jerry Lewis and his expressions. But I understand his appeal to the French just a bit more now.

"Le ridicule ne tue pas."
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: punatic on November 08, 2010, 07:42:05 PM
(http://www.freewebs.com/shialabeoufheaven/09.jpg)

LaBeouf
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: kgs on November 08, 2010, 09:07:47 PM

Reading through the thread makes me wonder... where are the female brewers?

I was actually thinking about doing a post to ask that question... I am sure there are a few others on the Forum. I know several women homebrewers, and see even more on Twitter, but I don't think they belong to the AHA.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: morticaixavier on November 08, 2010, 11:08:44 PM
My wife also asks where al lthe femal homebrewers are.

there is this
http://queenofbeer.hazeclub.org/
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: kgs on November 09, 2010, 04:40:34 AM
My wife also asks where al lthe femal homebrewers are.

there is this
http://queenofbeer.hazeclub.org/

In the 18th century, nearly 80% of all licensed brewers were women. Ask your wife to come on board!

I had wanted to enter a brew in Queen of Beer, but the beer timed for that session had a lot of challenges (it was the first brew in my new kettle and outdoors).
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: morticaixavier on November 09, 2010, 04:32:02 PM
My wife also asks where al lthe femal homebrewers are.

there is this
http://queenofbeer.hazeclub.org/

In the 18th century, nearly 80% of all licensed brewers were women. Ask your wife to come on board!

I had wanted to enter a brew in Queen of Beer, but the beer timed for that session had a lot of challenges (it was the first brew in my new kettle and outdoors).

Hence 'Ale Wife' It was one of the things included with keeping a house for most of beer making history. My wife may help me this weekend (assuming she is not in labor or has just given birth, in which case neither of us will be brewing) She also wants to make a hefe when there is time.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: akr71 on November 09, 2010, 05:25:26 PM
Hence 'Ale Wife' It was one of the things included with keeping a house for most of beer making history. My wife may help me this weekend (assuming she is not in labor or has just given birth, in which case neither of us will be brewing) She also wants to make a hefe when there is time.

And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: denny on November 09, 2010, 05:53:28 PM
Hence 'Ale Wife'

Not to mention "brewster".
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: morticaixavier on November 09, 2010, 06:04:14 PM
Not to mention "brewster".

so I have known a few Brewsters and a couple of Brewers but never met anyone named Maltster what's up with that?
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on November 09, 2010, 09:54:02 PM
Hence 'Ale Wife' It was one of the things included with keeping a house for most of beer making history. My wife may help me this weekend (assuming she is not in labor or has just given birth, in which case neither of us will be brewing) She also wants to make a hefe when there is time.

And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.

My, how times have changed.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: alikocho on November 11, 2010, 01:59:36 PM
Hence 'Ale Wife' It was one of the things included with keeping a house for most of beer making history. My wife may help me this weekend (assuming she is not in labor or has just given birth, in which case neither of us will be brewing) She also wants to make a hefe when there is time.

And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.

This makes me dread to think what people sold in the past for baby showers...
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: lauriegator on November 17, 2010, 09:19:25 PM
Reading through the thread makes me wonder... where are the female brewers?

We are in the kitchen... Brewing ales, lagers and meads... LOL!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 17, 2010, 09:24:20 PM
And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.
This is new today . . .
http://zythophile.wordpress.com/2010/11/17/bride-ale-%E2%80%93-too-many-of-you-are-getting-this-wrong/
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: denny on November 17, 2010, 10:00:10 PM
My wife bought me my original homebrewing kit and has always been a huge supporter.  As an example...we're working on a bathroom remodel.  She wanted to get a custom made fused glass sink.  Very arty, very expensive...so expensive that I didn't ask how much.  If that's what she wants, that's what she deserves.  She brought home the prototype and I was astounded to see that she'd had the artist make glass hop leaves and cones and set them into the sink!  WOW!!!!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 17, 2010, 10:08:41 PM
That's awesome Denny ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 17, 2010, 10:11:51 PM
Reading through the thread makes me wonder... where are the female brewers?

We are in the kitchen... Brewing ales, lagers and meads... LOL!

It's good to see that there are women brewing beer. It's not just a man's hobby. In my homebrew club, we have alot of women that participate and actually brew beer.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: jeffy on November 17, 2010, 10:22:21 PM
My wife bought me my original homebrewing kit and has always been a huge supporter.  As an example...we're working on a bathroom remodel.  She wanted to get a custom made fused glass sink.  Very arty, very expensive...so expensive that I didn't ask how much.  If that's what she wants, that's what she deserves.  She brought home the prototype and I was astounded to see that she'd had the artist make glass hop leaves and cones and set them into the sink!  WOW!!!!

Cool!  Post some pictures for us when you can.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 17, 2010, 10:26:03 PM
That's awesome Denny ;D


+1

It's great to have a wife that supports your hobby.  8)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: denny on November 17, 2010, 11:20:56 PM
That's awesome Denny ;D

Yeah, it is.  I'm an unbelievably lucky guy to have been married to her for over 30 years.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: denny on November 17, 2010, 11:21:17 PM
My wife bought me my original homebrewing kit and has always been a huge supporter.  As an example...we're working on a bathroom remodel.  She wanted to get a custom made fused glass sink.  Very arty, very expensive...so expensive that I didn't ask how much.  If that's what she wants, that's what she deserves.  She brought home the prototype and I was astounded to see that she'd had the artist make glass hop leaves and cones and set them into the sink!  WOW!!!!

Cool!  Post some pictures for us when you can.

Will do!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: akr71 on November 18, 2010, 01:30:44 PM
And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.
This is new today . . .
http://zythophile.wordpress.com/2010/11/17/bride-ale-%E2%80%93-too-many-of-you-are-getting-this-wrong/

Interesting read, thanks!  At least my incorrect info is 185 years old  :)
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 18, 2010, 05:23:28 PM
And 'bridal' shower --> bride's ale.  The new bride would sell her beer in order to purchase what was needed for the household.
This is new today . . .
http://zythophile.wordpress.com/2010/11/17/bride-ale-%E2%80%93-too-many-of-you-are-getting-this-wrong/

Interesting read, thanks!  At least my incorrect info is 185 years old  :)
It was the first I'd heard of using ale that way, so now I have to figure out how to work it into conversation. ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: MrNate on November 18, 2010, 05:48:52 PM
It was the first I'd heard of using ale that way, so now I have to figure out how to work it into conversation. ;D

Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: denny on November 18, 2010, 06:16:19 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: morticaixavier on November 18, 2010, 06:17:40 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D

ugg
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tschmidlin on November 18, 2010, 06:21:41 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D
Ouch!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 18, 2010, 06:38:40 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D

mmm...yardbird ale.  :P
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tumarkin on November 18, 2010, 07:40:23 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D

mmm...yardbird ale.  :P

to cross this with the brewing music thread.......   
             I am the little red rooster Too lazy to crow for day

Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: bluesman on November 18, 2010, 07:42:47 PM
Much in the same way that I constantly try to work the phrase "cock ale" into everyday conversation.

I wish somebody had told me it referred to a chicken _before_ I tried making it!   ;D

mmm...yardbird ale.  :P

to cross this with the brewing music thread.......   
             I am the little red rooster Too lazy to crow for day



A little Howlin' Wolf for what ales ya!
Title: Re: Wife and Homebrew?
Post by: tumarkin on November 18, 2010, 07:46:46 PM
wasn't that Willie Dixon (popularized by the Stones)?