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Title: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on November 30, 2009, 09:11:48 pm
I fully planned on spending time here but am now dogged by this thing called breast cancer. My wife has been sick and has a pretty serious issue with it so I have not been able to get in here and post and share. Have been spending days off work at doctors and such. She will have full mastectomy and reconstructive after chemo is over. Funny, we just don't feel that old yet. Both of us are 44 and thought this was for older people.....until now.

A little advice for my friends, have your wife go in every year for a mamogram, no matter what anyone else says.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: rep on November 30, 2009, 09:14:43 pm
I am sad to hear this.  Please know you and your wife are in my prayers.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: mtbrewer on November 30, 2009, 09:24:36 pm
Oh man, I am so sorry to hear this news. My prayers are with you. A close family friend has been battling this for 3 years. Stay strong!
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on November 30, 2009, 09:56:31 pm
Thanks guys. Rep, you look familiar. You from the NB forum?

mtbrewer, thanks. Keeping the faith. I know many go thru this all the time but I really couldn't appreciate it until its my turn to deal with it.

15th is the surgery, University of Michigan hospital has been the epicenter of our life lately. What an awesome place....words can't explain. Its like a city within a city.....with a hotel and everything !!!!

I'll keep you all posted.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: The Professor on November 30, 2009, 09:57:35 pm
wow...sorry to hear this news.  Hang in there and know that everyone here will be sending lots of positive energy your way.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: boulderbrewer on November 30, 2009, 10:05:26 pm
TimO,

You and your wife will be in our prayers. You both stay strong!
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: rabid_dingo on November 30, 2009, 10:47:22 pm
Damn. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I have been indirectly affected
by this disease. Two of my friends. That is why I wore pink tie at work all
October.

Save the Ta-tas! (http://www.savethetatas.com/)
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: tfries on November 30, 2009, 11:41:59 pm
Tim,

Best of thoughts for you and your wife in this tough time.  May all the best come to you.

Cheers,
Tom
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: chauncey on December 01, 2009, 12:58:19 am
Really sorry to hear this Tim. At least she's getting the best treatment. Hang in there.

73
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: majorvices on December 01, 2009, 05:54:32 am
Sorry to hear. Thoughts and prayers with your family.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: bonjour on December 01, 2009, 06:01:15 am
Anything I can do to help Tim?  ANYTHING!!!

My wife had it too, though not nearly to the extent that yours does, so I do have an idea of what you are going through.

Take care of that which is most important,

Fred
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: Hokerer on December 01, 2009, 07:15:34 am
Both of us are 44 and thought this was for older people.....until now.

We're going through the same thing and the wife is 51 so yeah, it really isn't just for old people.  Hers was advanced enough that we're doing chemo first to shrink it then double mastectomy (Jan/Feb) then radiation.  You're in our prayers.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: blatz on December 01, 2009, 07:27:17 am
sorry to hear that - thoughts and prayers your way, man.

Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: bluesman on December 01, 2009, 07:42:19 am
I'm sorry to hear the news. Thoughts and prayers for the best.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: wpshadowens on December 01, 2009, 08:00:19 am
Tim,

Sorry to hear this news. I know all too well how you and your wife must have felt hearing those words at such an early age. I was 39 when I was diagnosed with Lymphoma. Did the chemo and radiation thing and am now approaching 4 years in remission.

Be strong, stay positive and let your faith guide you through this. You, your wife and family are in our thoughts and prayers.
If there is anything you need or anything I can do to help please let me know.

Better days are ahead my friend.

Bill S.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: ndcube on December 01, 2009, 08:09:30 am
Sorry to hear it.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: denny on December 01, 2009, 09:49:28 am
Tim, I'm so sorry to hear this.  My best wishes to you and your wife for a successful treatment and speedy recovery.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: maxieboy on December 01, 2009, 09:49:54 am
Aw man, sorry to hear this. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. Let me know if I can do anything.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: gail on December 01, 2009, 01:54:44 pm
Tim, Hokerer and all the others whose lives have been forever affected by breast cancer,
Your wives and partners are incredibly lucky to have your love and support as they struggle through this disease, surgery and treatment.  They, along with you and your families, are in our thoughts and prayers.
Tim:  U of M is a great hospital for your wife's treatment.  Your Michigan brew family is hoping for good news; keep us posted.
Keep wearing those pink ties, guys.
Gail
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: weazletoe on December 01, 2009, 02:26:36 pm
Very sorry to hear that. Wishing the best for you both.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: hamiltont on December 01, 2009, 02:35:22 pm
That's tough news to share TimO!!  Your wife is in our prayers!!!  Let your faith lead you through this!!!
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: dimik on December 01, 2009, 11:20:55 pm
Aw. I'm truly sorry to hear that. Hope your wife and your family get through this. Best wishes...
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on December 02, 2009, 06:32:22 pm
Tim, Hokerer and all the others whose lives have been forever affected by breast cancer,
Your wives and partners are incredibly lucky to have your love and support as they struggle through this disease, surgery and treatment.  They, along with you and your families, are in our thoughts and prayers.
Tim:  U of M is a great hospital for your wife's treatment.  Your Michigan brew family is hoping for good news; keep us posted.
Keep wearing those pink ties, guys.
Gail


Gail and all....thank you to the bottom of the heart. Hokerer, my compatriot in this battle, lets fight it out, my thoughts are also with you sire and hope your wife does as well as we all expect mine will. I always used to make fun of all the different colored bracelets because I didn't know or hadn't been affected. I've been schooled and humbled. I now have the pink bracelet and wear it proudly.

Fred, I plan to do some brewing during the holidays to get the spirits up and the brewing juices flowing. Maybe we can brew together? Bill Shadowens, you too. I didn't know you had gone thru this Billy. I will have to pick your brains either at the next club meeting or a brew day for cancer survivor stuff.

So far family and friends will be here to help change dressings, clean the house, bring meals, etc.

More news to follow.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: wpshadowens on December 03, 2009, 10:05:35 pm
Tim,

If you want to get together and brew or just hang out that sounds good to me. Even if you just need someone to talk at for a while, I'm a good listener. Not sure yet what my work schedule is going to be like through the holidays but I'm sure we can work something out. Let me know what works for you. Next club meeting is 7:00 PM this Monday, Dec 7th at Sherwood but I'm not sure if I'm going to get out of work in time to get there. Sherwood is on my way home so if your going to be there let me know and I will stop in and say hello at the very least.

Hang in there buddy. Talk to you soon,
Bill
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: matthew on December 04, 2009, 07:16:33 am
Hey Timo, really sorry to hear that. Be strong, yall will be in my thoughts.

Matthew
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: rep on December 04, 2009, 02:02:44 pm
Thanks guys. Rep, you look familiar. You from the NB forum?

mtbrewer, thanks. Keeping the faith. I know many go thru this all the time but I really couldn't appreciate it until its my turn to deal with it.

15th is the surgery, University of Michigan hospital has been the epicenter of our life lately. What an awesome place....words can't explain. Its like a city within a city.....with a hotel and everything !!!!

I'll keep you all posted.

TimO

Yes TimO...I stop in at the NB forum as well.  I live about 60 miles from St. Paul and get to the shop fairly often.
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on December 08, 2009, 05:36:17 pm
Yeah, this really digs into the beer culture as well. Instead of going to the club meeting to see Fred and Bill and others last night, I ended up taking my wife to her pre-surgery checkup. So, I missed another meeting.....there will be more.

Bill, I'll let you know. Fred, got your message about the legislation, will submit a gripe on all our behalf.

Would like to do a brew before the end of the year with a couple of you guys.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: dirtyjerzey on December 08, 2009, 08:33:13 pm
We've been through similar with some friends and family as well...thoughts are with you both!

Stay strong!
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: wpshadowens on December 14, 2009, 09:30:17 pm
Tim,

Hope all goes well tomorrow. You wife is in our thoughts and prayers.

Bill
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: k4df4l on December 15, 2009, 05:08:15 am
That sucks!  My thoughts are with you and your wife. 
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on December 31, 2009, 09:40:04 pm
Still been sparse, but I'll brew with Fred Bonjour tomorrow for a Brew Years Brew with some friends.

An update:

Chemo starts Jan 14th and goes til some time in April. Then Radiation, then reconstructive surgery. Seems that the baseline for positive cancer in the lymph nodes is four before they consider radiation. She had six of twenty four removed test positive. Not going to be fun. We have great friends supporting us and helping my daughter to get thru it as well.

We're getting by with humor. Buying funky scarves she can wrap overt her head to look ridiculous, looking at buying funny colored wigs, best way to handle it....light hearted.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: denny on January 01, 2010, 09:53:37 am
Good to hear from you, Tim.  Have a great brew day with Fred.  All the best wishes to you, your wife and family in the coming year!
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: gail on January 01, 2010, 11:25:22 pm
As they say, laughter is good medicine and will certainly help your wife and you as she goes through her treatments and surgery.  Keep laughing and best wishes in this New Year.  Your family will be in my thoughts, hope to hear good news from you as the year progresses.
Gail
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: dean on January 03, 2010, 08:12:01 am
Sorry for you and the Mrs., TimO.   :(  My wife is hard to get to go to the doctor for anything, that and we don't have insurance anymore so I don't know how we would afford it though I wish we could.  My wife is 50 now and should be checked every year, ironically the government says they need to be checked only every two years now? 
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: timo on January 06, 2010, 06:16:31 pm
Thanks all !!!

Gail, your words are salve my friend !!!  Commencing to laugh.....

Denny, a happy one to you sir!! We had an exceptional brew day in the single digit temps. Best time of year to brew IMHO. Fred, I brought home some of your brews after you left. Sorry pal. I'll make it up to you on the trip to HopCat this weekend. For all, one of the students in our class is now a head brewer at a brewery in Grand Rapids, Mi. Fred and I are visiting him this saturday to see how all is going and deliver some Roselaire yeast packets for a 'project'.

Dean, I sincerely hope your wife has no issues during this time. I can ampathise with you. If it can be done, have her checked every year. If I had followed the governments warning, then I could have waited til next year. It may have spread and been more than a stage 1 if we had waited.

TimO
Title: Re: Been scarce, wife has cancer
Post by: bonjour on January 06, 2010, 08:04:20 pm
No problem Tim,

just to confirm, is you addr 9337?

if not email me and i'll see ya 9ish Saturday

Fred