Why did you not turn around and ask the secretary to make coffee?
Because there's a whole giant raft of socialization that would put her in a bad position if she did. Men who would ask would be galled at the temerity she was showing and possibly label her with epithet attached to "difficult women". Aka sometimes it's just easier to take a big ole bite of a crap sandwich if the time/place isn't right.
Amanda, that's a giant pile of crap to deal with and it sucks.
If you listen to the podcast at all, you know my feelings on these sorts of issues, so I'll leave it at that.