Yikes, blood on the pillow and everything? My wife is a medically hypersenstive person in some ways so anything remotely that severe she'd have carted me off to any number of doctors immediately, regardless of protests. Hope it gets better for you!
I was sure I'd get this eventually, because in my early 20s I was both cranking up tube amps until my guitar tone was appreciably saturated with power tube distortion (a lovely thing) and I was also in thrall to an enjoyable hobby of target shooting with rather noisy centerfire pistols. But lately...I maybe shoot once every one or two years, and musically I've switched over to purely acoustic Indian music on the hobby side, where the volumes are very modest, and in the western music sphere I'm playing with in ear monitors and stage volume is much reduced. It's nice when you pull a meend on a sitar and you, the player, have to hold your breath to hear the sustain and harmonics dying out, softly. Nice on the eardrums too.