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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #15 on: January 10, 2012, 09:59:44 AM »
I've already sent a few emails to the boss (and to the guy who is my 'psuedo' boss) and the general response has been 'just try to ignore him.' Also as a contractor I don't have the right to talk to HR.

sounds like you are all set then Phil, he's not a nice person so write it off and don't worry. It's not affecting how your boss views you so f him.

The answer to this question seems (at least to me) to be obvious:

Move out of France.

Most of the French are a-holes, so the odds of having an a-hole coworker would seem to be statistically very high.

Ahh proof of transference. spend a lot of time in France Chumley? how bout NYC?

Usually people like that have no balls and have to resort to saying things behind your back or under their breath.   One of the ways to deal with people like this is to call this guy out in front of all your co-workers and be clear with him in the most straight forward way (please stop, If I am doing something wrong or something that bothers you please talk to me instead of telling every one else) when you catch him in his weasel ways.


This sounds like a good way to do it.

and this seems like the most mature solution so far.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #16 on: January 10, 2012, 10:01:43 AM »
Usually people like that have no balls and have to resort to saying things behind your back or under their breath.   One of the ways to deal with people like this is to call this guy out in front of all your co-workers and be clear with him in the most straight forward way (please stop, If I am doing something wrong or something that bothers you please talk to me instead of telling every one else) when you catch him in his weasel ways.


This sounds like a good way to do it.

This never worked in the 5th grade as I recall and it sounds like this guy is still there, but it seems like the best thing to try.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #17 on: January 10, 2012, 10:05:10 AM »
Tell him you had sex with his wife.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #18 on: January 10, 2012, 10:10:51 AM »
The answer to this question seems (at least to me) to be obvious:

Move out of France.

Most of the French are a-holes, so the odds of having an a-hole coworker would seem to be statistically very high.
How many French people do you know?  How much time have you spent in France?  I'm pretty sure France has about the same percentage of a**holes as the US does.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #19 on: January 10, 2012, 10:22:43 AM »
Usually people like that have no balls and have to resort to saying things behind your back or under their breath.   One of the ways to deal with people like this is to call this guy out in front of all your co-workers and be clear with him in the most straight forward way (please stop, If I am doing something wrong or something that bothers you please talk to me instead of telling every one else) when you catch him in his weasel ways.


This sounds like a good way to do it.

This never worked in the 5th grade as I recall and it sounds like this guy is still there, but it seems like the best thing to try.


This is the best advice so far...
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #20 on: January 10, 2012, 10:25:26 AM »
Tell him you had sex with his wife.


That will certainly put a twist into the mix. ;)
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #21 on: January 10, 2012, 10:28:15 AM »
Is this guy related to the owner or a VP or some other grand high muckity-muck?  It is cliche, but it is true; blood is thicker than water.  Bucking someone who is related to a higher up will not go well.

I would suggest that you keep it positive, do the best job you can, and have as little to do with Mr. Asshole as possible.  Be polite but distant when you interact with him.  He sounds like a bigot.

That way YOU know you are doing the right thing and can be satisfied that you did your best.  Others will see that you are a good worker and a good person.  If they don't, what difference does it make, anyway?

This sounds like a good opportunity to find an even better job.

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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #22 on: January 10, 2012, 10:30:43 AM »
Is this guy related to the owner or a VP or some other grand high muckity-muck?  It is cliche, but it is true; blood is thicker than water.  Bucking someone who is related to a higher up will not go well.

I would suggest that you keep it positive, do the best job you can, and have as little to do with Mr. Asshole as possible.  Be polite but distant when you interact with him.  He sounds like a bigot.

That way YOU know you are doing the right thing and can be satisfied that you did your best.  Others will see that you are a good worker and a good person.  If they don't, what difference does it make, anyway?

This sounds like a good opportunity to find an even better job.



Great advice Carl...and just remember to kill him with kindness.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #23 on: January 10, 2012, 11:08:04 AM »
Make a peace offering with some homebrew.  And if that doesn't work, hit him over the head with your mash paddle.  >:(
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #24 on: January 10, 2012, 11:10:30 AM »
The answer to this question seems (at least to me) to be obvious:

Move out of France.

Most of the French are a-holes, so the odds of having an a-hole coworker would seem to be statistically very high.

Well, "most" statistically implies 50% or more. Both my wife and my son are French. Which one of them, then, is the asshole?
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #25 on: January 10, 2012, 11:23:34 AM »
This is the problem.

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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #26 on: January 10, 2012, 11:27:59 AM »
Is this guy related to the owner or a VP or some other grand high muckity-muck?  It is cliche, but it is true; blood is thicker than water.  Bucking someone who is related to a higher up will not go well.

I would suggest that you keep it positive, do the best job you can, and have as little to do with Mr. Asshole as possible.  Be polite but distant when you interact with him.  He sounds like a bigot.

That way YOU know you are doing the right thing and can be satisfied that you did your best.  Others will see that you are a good worker and a good person.  If they don't, what difference does it make, anyway?

This sounds like a good opportunity to find an even better job.



Great advice Carl...and just remember to kill him with kindness.

Yeah, that and 'always stay above reproach' are my two dogs in this fight.
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #27 on: January 10, 2012, 11:33:20 AM »
isn't Chumley just such a great name for a troll?
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #28 on: January 10, 2012, 12:15:40 PM »
I've had similar things happen at my current place of employment and others. These things have a way of sorting themselves out over time. Your superiors know you. If the guy keeps it up he'll just build ill-will towards himself.

The pride factor is more difficult, and probably eating at you. Look at it as an opportunity to learn how to rise above the situation and how it makes you feel.

You may be casting your net for another job but don't let the man force you out. Make changes at your own convenience.

If the guy hates you then forcing him to be around you more will keep him from talking about you and will drive him crazy. If you are really nice and helpful he might just quit. ;D
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Re: How to deal with an a$$hole coworker?
« Reply #29 on: January 10, 2012, 01:08:58 PM »
I've had similar things happen at my current place of employment and others. These things have a way of sorting themselves out over time. Your superiors know you. If the guy keeps it up he'll just build ill-will towards himself.

The pride factor is more difficult, and probably eating at you. Look at it as an opportunity to learn how to rise above the situation and how it makes you feel.

You may be casting your net for another job but don't let the man force you out. Make changes at your own convenience.

If the guy hates you then forcing him to be around you more will keep him from talking about you and will drive him crazy. If you are really nice and helpful he might just quit. ;D

Stranger things have happened.  We have gone though a ton of mergers and buying other companies over the years where I work.  Luckily we've always done the acquiring and not the being acquired side.  It has always been interesting to see people who couldn't stand each other become grand allies as soon as they both faced the same threats.  (I have seen these people and they have been me, on occasion.)

It usually works to smile, wait and when the opportunity to form an alliance presents itself, draft him to your side of the issue.  I guess it could be called the "trick him into accepting you" plan.   :D

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