I think the PNW misses on a few of your criteria, but it's where I'm staying for now and the future.
Redmond is nice, I highly recommend it. We have chickens (2 are laying, the other two are getting close), and both Seattle and Portland allow chickens in the city. It's not cheapest place to live, but on the other hand people in your industry are well compensated. The main thing you would want to do is to get a house on the bus lines - the buses on the east side are very good, clean, and on time. There is plenty of diversity, the kind of diversity depends on where you live. Redmond is very Microsoft heavy as you can imagine, so the diversity runs towards highly educated foreigners. Good education for the kids in the Lake Washington School District, plus UW is great and there are several other schools your wife could check out.
We meet your temperature desires, but fail on the sun and thunderstorms. We have a lot of cloudy days (something like 300 cloudy/partly cloudy days per year) and thunderstorms are rare (I only hear thunder a couple of times per year).
Great beer scene, and it's not too hard to start a brewery considering Mic Sager just did it and I know a few other people who have or are in the process of doing so. Whatever hurdles there are, there are plenty of people around to help you navigate them, including the Washington Brewers Guild.
Let me know if you decide to head this way. I have a bunch of Microsoft neighbors who are happy to turn in resumes, and my wife does IT PM consulting and has contacts at a lot of the consulting companies in the area.