Maybe it was something I drank...coffee!
The connection I intended was not making a move when the person is most receptive to you and instead write a letter which comes off as not confident which ain't sexy to neither a woman nor a businessman. I'm no beer judge and I don't aspire to be. I can't imagine it would be easy. They must spend a lot of time and energy and drink a lot of crappy beer just to endure a lot of crap from brewers who disagree with the score/evaluation you gave them. I know I have a hard time telling a wide-eyed newbie, let alone a seasoned veteran, that their masterpiece is flawed.
I'd suggest in a couple months or more to have a couple beers at the farm and see how it's going. Maybe she'll be receptive again. Then maybe get the tour (per euge). In the meantime, best of luck with the bjcp! We're all counting on you to use your influence and passion to help bring better beer to this world! Thanks.