Thanks everyone. I will start with the new grain mill and adjusting my mash water ratio in order to get my collected volumes from 1st and 2nd runnings closer to the same amount.
I may be posting a pic of what my crush looks like in a separate thread to get advice on how it looks...
Sounds like a plan. I know my efficiency went up a few points when I went to a thinner mash. In addition, I didn't have to mess with adding more water before the mash runoff to equalize the runnings. As mentioned, if your runnings are within about a gal. of each other it's plenty close enough. In addition, there's a school of thought that getting more first runnings will increase the quality of your beer.
Go ahead and post a pic of your crush, but I really don't think it will help you. None of us are brewing on your system, so none of us can tell you if it's too fine. Sure, it's easy to spot if it's not crushed enough, but beyond that you just have to crush and brew, and see how it works for you.