hmm the acetate and ethyl acetate are nowhere near strong enough to ruin the batch yet, barely above threshold. that is to say, those flavors are not my concern really, at least not yet; at low low levels I think both add some nice dimensions of complexity to sours. of course they can easily become overwhelming, but they are certainly not there yet; I do not know where I gave the impression I was trying to 'age them out.'
The beer still tastes really nice actually, and I was wondering if I could continue to add something to it considering the direction it has unintentionally taken. Many wild yeasts found in barrels, including brett, will oxidize ethanol to acetate (which will then bind with ethanol to form ethyl acetate) over time, so adding the beer to the barrel hardly seems dangerous (there are probably all kinds of oxidative yeasts in there already).
Anyways, since it seems like I may not be able to derive much from the mixed culture with such a low gravity already, I may just wait until the next batch.