I suspect that infection is one of, if not your only problem. I've been having a great many of my beers turn to gushers, some almost immediately, many after as much as a year in the bottle. Last night I tried one of the last of an IPA I bottled last April and it was just about right carbonationwise. The batch had been properly carbonated for the 1st couple months, then overnight turned into gushers, now the gusher phase seems to be over? I'm scratching my head over that bit.
I do use Speise for priming instead of sugar, but always at a rate to keep carbonation under 1 1/2 atmospheres.
Another head scratcher that some may call BS on, I've had a few commercial beers that sat in my basement fridge for several months turn into gushers after time.
I am trying some ideas to be more rigorous about sanitation, but if my problem is infection, and the cause is airborne yeast spores, I think I'm just screwed, cuz I aint moving to another place to escape yeast spores.