We've had the same issue down here in southwestern Virginia. What we have
been able to do that seems to be ok with ABC are meetings at brewpubs or restaurants that also sell beer that isn't their own. The trick seems to be they have to hold a retail license. The relevant Code is 4.1-200 6 iii b, https://vacode.org/4.1-200/
[Homebrewer may serve their beer off residence to the public, not to exceed]...
(b) two ounces of beer by volume for on-premises consumption at events organized for judging or exhibiting such wine or beer, including events held on the premises of a retail licensee.
Presumably a homebrew club meeting constitutes exhibition of beer. I'm not a lawyer and haven't talked to ABC directly, but that seemed to be what these places got ABC permission to allow. Perhaps johnny_mo has insight on whether anything outside of breweries was discussed with the ABC agent.
Pours would need to be kept small, so we typically are buying full beers from the establishment, which also helps us thank them for use of their space. You also want to be careful with appearance so that the general public doesn't think that there is just some BYOB policy, so a sign or something can be helpful if you aren't in an isolated room/area or meeting during closed business hours.
Since that conversation was had with ABC and does require legislative action, does anyone know if there is (going to be) a coordinated effort to have that legislation put in place? Or anyone have suggestions for next best steps we can do individually? Thanks!