I'm actually kinda glad this topic came up - I've run into some of the same things you guys are talking about, like being told that I talk too much about beer. For a while it was the only thing I talked about, but then we had A Talk and we've broadened our conversation.
My wife loves beer, and since we've been brewing more often has taken to reminding me that our HOUSE has a better beer selection than most bars in Paris. She also tells our friends this, so I think it's safe to say she likes what I'm doing with the hobby.
One thing, though. I really want to get her more involved. It's fun to sit in the basement by myself listening to Phish and soldering pipe or crushing grain, but my commute means I don't get a huge amount of time to spend with her, and so the weekends are an important time to be together. I still want to make beer, so the best thing I can think of is to get her down there with me.
Trouble is, I can be a bit of a perfectionist, and so the last few times she's tried to help I think I sounded a bit like an arrogant asshole. I know, I know, RDWHAHB, but I know I'll blame myself if the beer comes out bad and who wants bad beer? But that's kind of an aside I guess, something I need to fix on my own.
So, what would you recommend for getting her to come down and brew with me? We've got the baby too, and I'd love for him to brew with me once he gets older, so this would be good for everybody, really. One thing I had thought about doing was getting a couple Erlenmeyer flasks and some cheap grain bags so she could do small-batch experimentation. Any recipes you could recommend that are Erlenmeyer-friendly, or should I just scale down my existing recipes?