Weaz I want to be sympathetic with you but its tough. Its a freakin' IPA, theres a thousand IPA recipes out there. Pale malt and some crystal, hops at 60,15 and 5. Plus you know you wouldn't follow directions, you already said you'd tweak it. So why do you need the recipe? I know, its kind of like asking a girl for her number and getting told "no". No fun but no big deal, theres plenty more where taht came from my friend.
I'm glad you've found a decent spot to hang out there. Is it close to home? I've got to drive 20 miles for the privilege of microbrew, and theres generally no band.
If you want to get back at her, next time suggest that she up her crystal a bit, or some credible and legit suggestion like that. Whatever you'd do to tweak it.