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Wife and Homebrew?
« on: October 30, 2010, 08:44:39 PM »
My wife doesn't get it. I guess it is time for a change.

What have you done to make it some what easy?

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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2010, 09:52:45 PM »
I met my wife at the '96 NHC in NOLA.  She totally gets it.
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2010, 10:08:53 PM »
My wife bought me my first kit back in 1992 and has been very supportive ever since.
I'd really just rather be brewing in sunny Carlsbad New Mexico

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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2010, 10:08:59 PM »
Meeting with the lawyer next week.
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2010, 10:44:20 PM »
I guess it is time for a change.

I been thinking the same thing....I'm damn old to be back in the market
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2010, 11:02:56 PM »
I was a homebrewer long before I met my wife,  If she wasn't supportive, I wouldn't have married her.

Then again, her go-to beer when she turned 21 was Black Butte Porter . . .

I think the main thing to do is make something that she likes, whether that's beer, wine, cider, or sake.  And stroke her ego by naming it after her.  And no, I don't mean "Raving B!tch IPA" or "Psycho Wife Barelywine - I'll keep this beer longer than I'll keep her".  "Bachelor Bitter" is taken, and is not advisable anyway :)
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2010, 11:41:44 PM »
I think the main thing to do is make something that she likes, whether that's beer, wine, cider, or sake.

Mead, Tom... Mead is the answer!

When I started brewing I was overwhelmed with the possibilities...  One of my primary goals was to make a beverage that women love, and when they drink it they fall over backwards and ...

It worked 14+ years ago.  It still works today... Mead!

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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2010, 11:46:30 PM »
Whoops, I should have looked at my list more closely!  Yes of course, mead too.  Whatever it takes. :)
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #8 on: October 31, 2010, 05:32:43 AM »
My wife, while very supportive, isn't a fan of most brews.  She can tolerate meads, but she doesn't LOVE them.  However...a simple cider....just juice and yeast...aged a couple months and then force carbonated, she drank that cornelius keg dry!

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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #9 on: October 31, 2010, 05:49:45 AM »
My wife was a beer drinker when we first met.  She wasn't as into craft brew as she is today, but she always liked beer.  She was at least somewhat geeked up about my initial interest in brewing, and now looks forward to brew day almost as much as me.  The only downer for her right now is that she's pregnant with our second, so no beer for awhile. :(  Oh well, I guess I was always willing and able to drink for two. ;) ;D
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #10 on: October 31, 2010, 05:50:12 AM »
My wife, though not a fan of beer, is very supportive of me brewing. I'm not sure why our wives would have to understand why we do it, to support us. Seems to me, if they don't get the whole idea of us enjoying it, and it being our hobby,well.......I dunno. Hollly crochets baby booties by the dozens. We have no children, and want no children. Do I get it? No. But hey, she likes it, and enjoys doing it, so more power to her.
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #11 on: October 31, 2010, 06:05:49 AM »
I was giving this some thought this morning, and he's what I came up with.  I mean no disrespect, you know I think of you likea big brother. I know you're WAY nito your beer and brewing. Your homebrew club, going to GABF, and events, not to mention brewing like a madman every weekend. Well, it occured to me, maybe if you eaae up on the throttle a little bit, for just a time, she'll feel a little better about it. Maybe she feels that your beer is getting some attention she deserves and wants? I know Holly starts getting a little snippy with me if I start pulling off double brews to many weekends in a row. That being the last thing I've done for a long time, and actually not haven gotten to brew since last February, she actaully keeps asking me when I going to, and how long till I have a brewery set up in Idaho.
   Maybe I'm wrong in your case, but just a thought.
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #12 on: October 31, 2010, 07:11:00 AM »
Meeting with the lawyer next week.

I can offer some advice in this area.

1. Dont do it.

2. If you have to, make sure you have expended all other routes. (take some time and step back).

3. Think of the kids.

4. In thsee days you have no use for anger, get rid of it.

5. And most important, for god sakes eat a peach.
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #13 on: October 31, 2010, 07:39:12 AM »

I can offer some advice in this area.
5. And most important, for god sakes eat a peach.

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You really are good at expanding my culinary horizons  ;)
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Re: Wife and Homebrew?
« Reply #14 on: October 31, 2010, 07:46:54 AM »
My wife isn't crazy about my homebrewing but she recognizes that it's my hobby and I enjoy it.  It's her fault anyway since she bought me the Mr. Beer kit.
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