This is exactly the reason why I heavily hop my American Barley wine every year. It starts to balance nicely after a year.
That's my philosophy with my own IPA. Traditional IPA is of course aged for months. I
massively hop the brew since it will age for 8 months to a year...thus, it is
quite hoppy (and still aromatic) when I start consuming it. I brew it a few times a year to make sure I always have some that is properly aged.
Typical American IPA is a different story... and honestly, I just don't like most of them because all seem to I get from them are green and immature flavors. The big exception is SN Celebration which I feel is a
beautifully made IPA; to me, it's the best one out there in both flavor and balance. Most of the other IPAs on the store shelves these days are one-note and (as much as I despise the term) 'boring'.
Others' mileage/opinions will vary.